“人生起落”的笔记

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关于人生起落,可以说是一个老生常谈的话题,也是一个说不清,不容易达成共识的话题。人生起落浮浮沉沉,每个人都会有自己的体验,仁者见仁,智者见智。倾听和交流,应该都是有意义的。今日,有朋友转送来一个帖子,对人生的起落有不少积极豁达的看法,读来茅塞顿开,心旷神怡,有更上一层楼之感。从编辑时间上看,这应该是2003年的旧帖。这么多年了还在流传,证明了它的生命力。

下面是我的阅读和点评。

1.很多时候,我们需要给自己的生命留下一点空隙,就像两车之间的安全距离,一点儿缓冲的余地。可以随时调整自己,进退有据。点评:保持距离是安全的。

2.生活的空间须借挪减而留出;心灵的空间,则经思考感悟而扩展。重要的不是发生什么事,而是我们处理的方法和态度。假如我们转身而向阳光,就不可能陷身在阴影里。点评:结局基于方法和态度。
 
3.当我们拿花送给别人时,首先闻到花香的是我们自己;当我们抓起泥巴想抛向别人时,首先弄脏的也是我们自己的手。一句温暖的话,就像往别人身上洒香水,自己也会沾到两三滴。因此,心存好意,脚走好路,身行好事。点评:最先闻到花香的人是幸运的。

 
4.光明使我们看见许多东西,也使我们看不见许多东西。假如没有黑夜,我们看不见闪亮的星辰;因此,即使是曾经一度使我们难以承受的痛苦的磨难,也可以使我们的意志更坚定,思想人格更成熟;因此,当困难和挫折到来,应平静地面对,乐观地处理。点评:平静和乐观是最高层次的成熟。

5.不要在人我是非中彼此磨擦。有些话语称起来不重,但稍稍不慎,便会重重地压在别人的心上;同时也要告诫自己,不要轻易被别人的话扎伤。点评:宽厚待人,坚强自己。

6.你不能决定生命的长度,但你可以扩展他的宽度;你不能改变天生的容貌,但你可以好好展现笑容;你不能企望控制他人,但你可以好好掌握自己;你不能全然预知明天,但你可以充分利用今天;你不能求事事顺心,但你可以做到事事尽心。点评:智者懂得把握自己,不怨天尤人。

7.在生活中一定要让自己豁达些;因为豁达自己,才不至于钻入牛角尖,也才能乐观进取。还要开朗些,因为开朗自己,才有可能把快乐带给别人,让生活中的气氛显得更加愉悦。点评:豁达才能开朗,开朗才会阳光。

8.心里如果常常保持快乐,就必须不把人和人之间的琐事当成是非。有些人常常在烦恼,就是因为别人无心的话他却有意地接受,并堆积在心中。点评:我坚信只有自己才会让自己不快乐。

9.一个人的快乐。不是因为他拥有的多,而是因为他计较的少。多的是负担,是另一种失去;少非不是,是另一种有余。舍弃也不一定是失去,而是一种更宽广的拥有。点评:不必计较得失。
 
10.美好的生活应该是时时拥有一颗轻松自在的心。不管外在的世界如何变化,自己都能有一片清静的天地。清静不在热闹繁杂中,更不在一颗所求太多的心中。放下挂碍,开阔心胸,心里自然清静无状。点评:要有怎样的定力才能不受外界的干扰?心的宁静堪称最高境界。

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